The truth about dating in NYC

Hey y'all! It has been sooo, sooo long since I have had the time to sit down and just write a fun post. So I am so glad to finally be on summer break, moved into my new place, and back home for a few weeks. Just a quick update for you all --- I finished off my freshman year of college, moved into my new apartment in ny, and am now home on and off all summer to spend time with fam. My internship starts end of May/early June, and I will be prioritizing my writing this summer. A crazy whirlwind of a semester has bled into a fun, busy summer now, too... but I wouldn't have it any other way.

I felt inspired to write this blog post after being home for around a week and having so many friends and family members ask about my dating life (LOL)... and while I enjoy being single wayyyy too much, I felt the assumptions around NYC dating were pretty wrong hahah! Seemingly, many people thought I was in a sea of beautiful men, wealth, and pretty dinner dates that ended with wine-stained lips and happenstance. That never happened. LOL.

I started off the beginning of last semester with a few very nice dates, probably the sweetest, most planned out ones I have ever been on. But with the fizzling out of chemistry, and my insane focus on school... they dwindled. But beyond that rare season in my dating life, NYC dating is not quite what everyone thinks.

NYC dating consists of tinder, hinge, bumble, etc... where most of the guys just want to hook up (but there are exceptions and I have seen it for many of my gals). I completely respect and cheer on the girls that live that life... but I am not one of them hahah! So for me, meeting up secretly for a late night tinder boy was not going to be in the books... as much as I wish they were. And then, when there is an ACTUAL tinder date... I have a fear of meeting up with a total stranger in the middle of a big city... is that unreasonable of me??? I honestly don't know.

Then, when the occasional coffee barista, or random stranger on the street calls you beautiful and asks for your number, you're dumbfounded with a skeptical feeling, even if you might want to give him your number, or think his curly brown hair is mesmerizing. So, that option is seemingly non-existent expect for the few rare guys that come off actually sweet, and not creepy.

Overall, as you can see.... the options are more limited and less fiction-based than one may think. However, I think in general, dating these days has changed. And while I don't think a huge date needs to be arranged, chilvary is something I always cherished, yet is diminishing fast.

I have had some insanely fun dates in the big city--- and I don't need a declaration of love, or a rose-petaled cocktail to feel that way. But NYC dating is not it is all cracked up to be.

P.S. NYC boys, feel free to prove me wrong;)

Deep love,

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